FENG SHUI WILD: VACATION, plus OUR DAUGHTER’S BIG OL’ MOUNTAIN WEDDING
Sometimes it’s not kind to make someone who has autism be a part of something big and loud because you want them there. We struggled through this one as a family. It was big time hard for mama. I cried saying goodbye to Zach, I dripped snot driving down interstate 5 and warbled out my heart felt sadness to my eldest daughter Hannah who gave me one ear as she sat in the passenger’s seat, sympathetic, while tuning the other to my four grandchildren ages six and under strapped into the back seat of the Montero.
We all wanted Zach at our family vacation (the first one he wouldn't attend). We also fought the family wholeness at his sisters Wedding, which Zach wouldn't celebrate with us. But it just wasn’t best for our Zach angel. We keep dragging the poor guy to our cabin at 7,000 feet in elevation and in all of his 20 years, he’s probably enjoyed three, now four…we took him up for some fresh air recently and he enjoyed it, but that’s for another story (never say never; try try again). This year during our family vacation Zach would be home in his comfortable home with a competent respite care giver, playing and sleeping in his deeply entrenched routine. In the end, the MOB needed this. I had much to focus on. Four littles running around a deep northern California lake and a wedding to navigate, though half of my heart and mind remained in Southern Oregon. I’m sure my family noticed. I was slightly vacant at times and they kept offering me glasses of wine, which I refused knowing that MOB dress wasn’t made of stretch material.
We used the finest feng shui artist alive today, God. We also used the talent and creative spirit He dispersed to us, which we then coupled with His creation and here is what we came up with…
|Beautiful sky, smooth water, perfect day…|
|Hannah and Steven’s 8th Anniversary the|
9th of August.
|A peaceful place...|
|Bride and groom going for our customary |
morning mocha boat ride.
|Julie surf boarding with daddy|
|The bride de’stressing on a wake board;|
hours before the wedding.
|Sister of the bride and the official ring barer|
|Rachel’s childhood bestie and |
our wedding singer
(and a darn good one at that, check our her new EP, itunes Zoechild)
|The maid of honor and Rachel’s YWAM buddy|
|The bride’s arrival in a golf cart, driven by |
the father of the bride
|Here Comes The Bride…and a three-year-old feather girl!|
|What a setting!|
|The parents prayer (with Julie Joy)|
|Original songs by Zoechild and Matt Zigines…Beautiful!|
|Father Daughter Dance|
|Mother Daughter Dance :)|
|The bride has a crush on the ring barer!|
|Salad, mushrooms, bacon wrapped dates….Mmmmmm|
|The beverage table|
|The wedding mascot-vingage tandem|
|Enter, best man and the groomsman|
|One of the the food tables|
|luscious half-moon fruit pies, by Pennington Farms|
|The cutting of the “apple pie” (thanks Pennington Farms)|
|Time To Go|
|Home two days after the wedding. The family is all together in one place. |
Mama loves it when this happens!
(Zach really didn’t want his picture taken)